Lagom: the Swedish secret to balanced living
Is it possible to have just enough of everything – not too much, not too little? In Sweden, the answer is a resounding yes. Enter 'lagom' – a uniquely Swedish concept that embraces balance, moderation and contentment.
While there’s no direct English translation, 'lagom' roughly means “just the right amount”. It’s about finding harmony in everyday life – whether decorating your home, planning your meals or managing your workload. For Swedes, 'lagom' isn’t about doing less – it’s about doing things mindfully and avoiding excess.
Think Goldilocks, but make it Scandinavian.
A brief history of 'lagom'
The word 'lagom' stems from an old form of ‘lag’, meaning “law” or “common sense law” – hinting at what’s appropriate or suitable. A more colourful (though debated) theory traces 'lagom' back to the Viking expression 'laget om', meaning “around the team” – a nod to passing a horn of mead so everyone got a fair sip. Practical, polite, and very Swedish.
That same spirit of balance explains Sweden’s custom of serving exactly seven types of cookies at social gatherings. Fewer would be stingy, and more would be showing off. Fortunately, most of these traditional Swedish cookies are made from the same dough – perfect for a 'lagom' baking session.
'Lagom' in modern life
Nowadays, 'lagom' runs through Swedish society like cinnamon through a bun. It’s so ingrained that Swedes often refer to their country as “the land of 'lagom'” – sometimes affectionately, sometimes with a sigh.
Importantly, 'lagom' isn’t a strict rule. It’s more of a compass guiding daily decisions – from parenting styles to office dynamics. Here are a few ways 'lagom' might show up in everyday life:
- Taking one cinnamon bun – not two – so there’s enough for everyone. And if there’s one left over, you split it.
- Hanging out just enough to enjoy each other’s company, without overdoing it.
- Decorating with simplicity and function, rather than flashiness.
- Working hard enough to be productive, without burning out.
- Wearing just the right amount of clothing for the weather (even if no one agrees on what 'lagom' warmth actually is).
A mindset for well-being
Science backs up what Swedes have known for generations: balance is good for you. Studies show that cultures valuing moderation and sustainable rhythms report lower stress levels and higher life satisfaction. A 'lagom' approach to life can help with emotional regulation, reduce the risk of burnout and promote a more profound sense of well-being.
Rather than chasing extremes, 'lagom' invites you to find joy in enough. It’s a shift in focus – from outward achievements to inner contentment.
So next time you’re wondering whether to do more, buy more or push harder – consider the Swedish way. Maybe 'lagom' really is best.
